SOME WAYS TO KEEP YOUR RELATIONSHIP ALIVE

If you want to try to breath life back into the relationship, here are some ways to try:

1. Say Yes to the Asks.
   
   When you hear your partner asking you to take out the trash or talk to you about their day, shift your attention. Look at them, hear them, and say Yes. Every moment of accepting the other person’s effort is a step back to love.
    
2. Turn Defense to Softness.
   
   When you hear yourself defending what you said or did, turn it around: Take responsibility for something—anything(not blame, responsibility). Try, “Sorry, I didn’t get what you were saying before.” Remember, by accepting your side of the problem, you become a bit more lovable.
    
3. Unpack It.
   
   Fights can be great for a relationship, if you know how to unpack the dirty laundry. By asking questions about what’s really in there, how things might have been misunderstood, and what the deeper meaning of the issue is, you get to know your partner better—and they feel better known and cared about. Love grows when you fertilize it with understanding and listening.
    
4. Be Vulnerable.
   
   Don’t give in, but turn toward your partner. If they make a demand you don’t like, explain how it makes you feel. Give them a chance to learn about your inner self in those moments. Open up; love can flow a little better when you are vulnerable.
    
5. Unexpected Kindness.
   
   When you know more about your partner, you can use that to show concern and kindness without being asked. The key is to have the other person’s back, even in little ways: You see the other person’s dishes in the sink, and you clean them up before he or she gets there. You leave a string of floss on the mirror before they get up. These little acts of kindness get noticed because they aren’t expected—and they say, "I love you” through actions, not words.

from UHONDO KITANDANI http://bit.ly/2PxWIDH