6 signs you could be addicted to love & how to overcome it

Let’s today share the key signs you could be addicted to love and toxic relationships and follows with advice on how to change.

1. You lose yourself in the other person

You lose your own sense of self by incessantly wondering what your lover is thinking, feeling and doing in a relationship.

You see life through their lens, not in an empathetic way but obsessively and you’re pretty blind to who you’re becoming.

2. You neglect friends and family

Your best friends and family now fit around his schedule and demands. Not in a balanced, mutual compromise but in a desperate bid to see him every moment he’s available.

Something inside you whispers: ‘make the most of this, grab all you can, it probably won’t last, just like the others.’

3. You change yourself to what you think he/she wants

With little thought for who you really are, you change yourself to fit in with their criteria.

Love addicts are often attracted to men who confirm their own perceived inadequacy with constant criticism, blame and shame .

They often attract narcissistic men who are drawn towards a love addict’s neediness, vulnerability and eagerness to please.

4. You feel let down when you see them

You feel slightly deflated each time you meet.

He’s just not as charismatic/attractive/sensitive/attentive as you remember.

This is a sure sign you’re falling in love with a fantasy image, rather than the real person.

5. You doubt yourself

You constantly doubt your own worthiness of love and attention; always feeling a little spaced out, off balance and potentially exhausted. It takes a lot of energy to constantly feel inadequate or not worthy of another person’s love.

6. You tolerate bad behavior – and then more bad behavior

You allow behaviors you wouldn’t tolerate from other people in your life from your love.

For example, he may disappear for days on end or even months and then swan back into your life like nothing happened.He might speak harshly to you in private or public or disregard your needs. He might blame you for his own shortcomings. He might have an off the scale anger problem.

You tolerate it and go back for more.

You may not even recognize the person you’re becoming.

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