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Mwanaume wajibika kwa style hii kuizuia michepuko ya mpenzi wako

Mapenzi yana kanuni zake, kanuni ambazo usipozifuata huwezi kupata furaha uliyotarajia. Unapotokea kumpenda mtu, hiyo ni hatua ya kwanza lakini omba sana upate ile bahati ya kumpenda mtu ambaye naye anakupenda kwa dhati.

Kwa bahati mbaya ukitokea kumzimikia mtu ambaye wala hana hata chembe za penzi kwako, utaumia sana na kama utalazimisha kuwa naye, utakuwa unajitafutia vidonda vya tumbo.

Hata hivyo, wapo waliobahatika kuwapata wapenzi wa ukweli lakini kwa kushindwa kwao kujua yapi ya kufanya ili kudumisha penzi, leo hii wameachika na bado wanaranda mtaani.

Kwa kifupi ni kwamba, unapoingia kwenye uhusiano na mtu na ukabaini naye anakupenda, hutakiwi kubweteka bali unatakiwa kutumia utundu na ubunifu wako katika yale ambayo yatamfanya huyo mtu wako ahisi wewe ni wa pekee kwake.

Ninapozungumzia hayo, namaanisha ubunifu kwenye mambo mengi ambayo hakika nikianza kuyaelezea hapa, nafasi inaweza isitoshe ila kwa leo nigusie utundu katika uwanja wetu ulee wa kujidai.

Faragha ni eneo muhimu sana ambalo linaweza kubomoa au kuimarisha ndoa. Ninapozungumzia hilo, ni kwa wote yaani mke na mume.

Mwanaume anatakiwa kumridhisha mkewe kwa kiwango kinachostahili. Kusiwepo mazingira ya kupeana mambo kiduchu kwani ikiwa hivyo lazima mke atakosa furaha iliyokamilika.

Ila sasa leo nataka niwazungumzie kwa kirefu wanawake. Kuna wanawake ambao wamebahatika kupata wanaume wanaowapenda sana na kuwapatia kila wanachohitaji.

Hawa wanatakiwa kujiona ni wenye bahati kubwa kwani kwa hali ilivyo sasa, wanawake wengi wanatafuta wanaume wa kuwaoa hawawapati.

Kinachonishangaza ni kwamba, kuna baadhi ya wanawake ambao wako ndani ya ndoa lakini wamejisahau kwamba wana jukumu la kuwapa waume zao furaha ambazo hawawezi kuzipata kwingine.

Ukijaribu kuchunguza utabaini wanawake wengi walio ndani ya ndoa siku hizi wanasalitiwa sana. Hii ni kwa sababu wamekuwa waongeaji sana lakini wanapokuwa faragha unaweza ukadhani siyo wao. Hawajui kitu, wamekaa kama magogo tu halafu eti wanadhani hawatasalitiwa na ndoa zao zitadumu, zitadumu kwa misingi ipi?

Mwanamke akae akijua kwamba, mumewe ni kama mtoto ambaye anatakiwa kubembelezwa huku akipewa vitu vitamu ili kumpumbaza asishawishike kutoka nje. Ukiwa kwenye ndoa kisha ukachukulia kila kitu poa tu eti kwa kuwa tayari ulishapendwa ipo siku utajikuta ni mke wa pambo la nyumba tu.

Mtaani kuna utitiri wa nyumba ndogo, wanaume walioanzisha makoloni hayo nje ya ndoa zao walikosa wake sahihi ambao wanaweza kuwashikilia waume zao.

Matokeo yake sasa nyumba ndogo hizo ndizo zinazoonekana kuwashika waume za watu siku hizi na wanafanikiwa kwa kuwa ni watundu na wabunifu.

Sasa kwa nini wewe mwanamke uliye ndani ya ndoa usifanye kama yale wanayofanya nyumba ndogo? Kuna dada mmoja nilizungumza naye hivi karibuni akaniambia eti amenuniana na mumewe huu ni mwezi wa pili baada ya mwanaume wake huyo kutaka afanyiwe mambo ambayo yeye aliona kinyaa kuyafanya.

Kabla ya kumjibu kwanza niliguna, sababu ya kuguna ni kwamba niliyagundua hayo mambo ambayo aliona kinyaa kumfanyia mumewe. Niseme tu kwamba, mapenzi wakati mwingine ni uchafu, wanaojua mapenzi wanajua kwa nini nasema hivyo.

Nilichomjibu mwanamke huyo ni kwamba, kama mwanaume huyo anampenda amfanyie kila atakacho isipokuwa kukubali kufanya mapenzi kinyume na maumbile na nikamwambia kuwa, mapenzi ni uchafu hivyo hayo ambayo anaona kinyaa kumfanyia mumewe ndiyo ambayo wengine wamekuwa wakiyafanya na wamefanikiwa kuzishika ndoa zao.

Naomba niseme tu kwamba, huenda unajiamini kuwa ni mzuri na umbo la kuvutia kiasi kwamba, ni rahisi kupata mwanaume wa kuoa lakini tambua bado utakuwa na kazi kwenye kuidumisha ndoa na kuhakikisha hukaribishi mazingira ya mumeo kutafuta nyumba ndogo.

Hakikisha unaonesha uanamke wako ili hata kama huyo mumeo atatoka nje, iwe ni kwa tamaa zake tu lakini mambo ya msingi uwe unampatilizi

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LADIES;Things your not supposed to tell your girlfriends about your Guy

It is normal for us ladies to spill everything about our lives to our closest girlfriends. Some of us even have a special day each week to meet with the girlfriends and discuss our lives in depth.

However, when in a serious relationship, there are things about your man you should never tell your girlfriends. The urge to tell them will be there, but so help you God to never reveal these 5 things about your man to your girlfriends.

His secrets

Men are secretive by nature. They do not tell their friends their secrets. So, when your man confides in you, it means he completely trusts you and knows that his secret is safe with you. Do not be tempted to share his secrets with your girlfriends no matter how juicy a topic they would make. Your friends will never look at him the same way again. Worse still, he might learn that you revealed his secrets and all his trust in you will be dead.

His weakness

So your man has a weakness and it drives you mad? Of course he’s human and all humans have weaknesses. Or did you expect him to be perfect? Perfectionism is something we all want in a man but will never find. Your man’s weaknesses might be driving you nuts but DO Not rush to your girlfriends to tell them all about it. Be protective of him. You fell in love with him; his weaknesses are part of what makes him. Give him the liberty to be the strong man your friends think and believe him to be.

His sexual prowess (or lack of it thereof)

This is a juicy topic to talk about with your friends over your weekly meetings especially if your man is a beast in bed. You might be tempted to tell them all about the kinky and unbelievable moves he makes in bed that rock your world. Please DO NOT tell them. Sex is a private affair and details about it should remain as such; private. No man would be delighted to know that his girlfriend’s friends know what a beast he is in bed. In any case, it’s totally embarrassing. Keep it to yourself.

If your man falls under the category of ‘not so good in bed’, DO NOT tell too. He’s your man; protect him

His mistakes

In every relationship, mistakes happen. When your man wrongs you, it is only normal for you to feel the urge to call your best friend and tell them about it. But for the sake of keeping your relationship, DON’T. They are friends and of course they will side with you to show you just how wrong he is. Being the good friends they are, they might end up giving you wrong advice that will hurt your relationship. To avoid all this, try and work out things with your man silently.

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Have you struggled with when you can use term “I Love You”…The solution is here

Three words that paralyze, solidify or make people flee relationships. But why does it have to be so awkward to say those words?

Is it about what it means, or what you interpret when your partner says them?

You need to ask yourself what ‘I love you’ means to you. Does it mean marriage, moving in together or just that you treasure the person you are with? Is it a warm fuzzy feeling like a blanket in Nairobi’s July rains or is it just something to punctuate an orgasm? The meaning of these three words varies so intensely from person to person.

Before you go blurting it out based on an ‘ideal’ time in your relationship, first ask yourself, what does ‘I love you’ mean to me?

Being in love isn’t just something you ‘know’ – it is something you do. Love is action. You can say it; but does your beau experience it by the way you treat them, talk to them, think of them? Love is an action that comes incrementally. You can only love someone you know; spend time with, learn to understand – it’s not a glance in a corridor. That glance in the corridor that makes your heart skip a beat is infatuation, it helps you zero in on a potential mate.

After infatuation, you get to the hard work of getting to know someone. Really get to know them – their strengths, weaknesses, convictions, pet peeves – you get the spiel.

As you build this connection, you are steadily growing toward that point of knowing and appreciating someone, flaws and all. This is love. Now that you finally know that you are in love, when do you say it?

The reason why we feel pressured about the timing or the need to say ‘it’ is based on two things: fear of rejection and social constructs which put a time frame on when you need to say it.

It really is all about saying it when you are ready.

Now a quick disclaimer here: you need to communicate how you feel at any given time in your relationship. Some say it faster some slower you need to be patient and considerate of each other.

Does it change the dynamic of your relationship? It may or may not. It really depends on the two of you and that’s what this is about.

What love means to you, how you build up from infatuation to love, and how you communicate your love really boils down to the both of you. No one can give you strict timelines: you decide for yourself when you need to hear it when you need to say it, and what it will mean for your relationship.

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Signs that will show how your guy have lost love interest with you

The beginning of a relationship is always the most exciting. You’re getting to know someone new with the same interests. Chemistry is hard to come by, so it’s a great feeling when you connect with someone with potential. Unfortuntately, it’s also common for those feelings to fade.

One of you may get bored, or feel like the relationship isn’t moving fast enough. It’s a shame when something promising loses steam, but there are plenty of signs that a guy is losing interest to be on the lookout for.

1. Texting declines.

Back when things were going well, the two of you couldn’t stop texting. Now, it’s hours in-between messages—if not days. This is a sign that you’ve fallen off of his list of priorities. That, or he’s just running out of things to talk about with you. Don’t push it. More texts won’t make him change his mind—they’ll probably just make him feel like you’re more maintenance than he’s ready for.

2. He’ll go out more, but not invite you.

Suddenly, his guys’ nights increase. It’s important for him to have a healthy social life, but if you’re left behind, it’s pretty obvious that he’s out there remembering the perks of being single. If the two of you aren’t official but have been stuck in the flirty stage for quite some time, he’s probably giving his number out to other people.

3. He stops complimenting you.

There isn’t a guy out there who’ll be constant with compliments, but in the glory days, he made sure to let you know you look nice. These days, you can’t even remember the last time he even glanced away from his phone. You should always get your confidence from your own sense of self, but if he’s not regularly complimenting you, his mind is probably wandering.

4. He’ll change his pet names for you.

It used to be hun, babe, or sweetheart. Now, it’s more like he’s talking to a buddy. Or, he’ll just use your name. There’s nothing wrong with that, necessarily. But in his mind, something is switching and he’s viewing you as something other than a romantic partner.

5. He starts talking way too much about someone else.

It might be a coworker or his friend’s latest girlfriend. Regardless, it reminds you a little of the way you used to talk about him. It doesn’t necessarily mean he’s got a crush on someone new. It just means that the two of you might not have the same spark that you used to, and he might be figuring that out.

6. He’s quick to fight.

Fighting is normal in any relationship. But when it seems like absolutely everything ends in a massive disagreement, he may be looking to start the fight in hopes that you’ll be the one to break up with him. When you’re losing interest in someone, a lot of events that are meant to be fun seem more like a chore.

7. He lets go of his hygiene.

Hygiene is something we should all be on top of— even if you think you don’t need a shower, you probably do. Even though we’ve all fallen short at some point, your guy seems to have given up completely. Especially when he’s expecting you to visit. If your boyfriend doesn’t brush your teeth before you visit, there’s definitely room for offense.

8. There’s no longer any talk about the future.

When you first started dating, you weren’t shy to bring up marriage or kids. But these days, he squirms a little when the future comes up and it’s not because he’s busy ring shopping. Next time bring up your timeline, pay close attention to his reaction. It’ll tell you everything you need to know.

9. You’re left out of big family events.

If you were invited to family gatherings before and are no longer, that’s a huge sign that a breakup may be close by. But if you’ve never met his relatives before, it’s a good sign that he’s not really seeing long-term potential in the relationship. It’s not easy to introduce someone to your parents, regardless of your age. If he’s already losing interest, he’s not going to go through that hurdle.

It’s hard to face when your relationship is facing rocky waters.. But, there is some good news—it’s not your fault. If a guy loses interest, it doesn’t mean you’re boring. It just means that the compatibility isn’t there. There’s plenty of other people out there who’d be better long-term matches.

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Namna bora zaidi ya kumchangamsha na kumfurahisha mwanamke

Ni kitu gani hasa kinamfurahisha mwanamke? Hauwezi kumfurahisha mwanamke kwa kumkejeli au kumshika baadhi ya maeneo ya mwili wake(utaishia kumchukiza na kujiondolea point).

Utajua unamfurahisha mwanamke pale tu unapomfanya ajisikie furaha, na wakati mwingine hushindwa kujizuia na hujikuta anakukiss!.

Ntakupa mambo matano ya kufanya ambayo yakuufurahisha moyo wa msichana unayemtaka(kumpenda).

Unaweza kubadilisha muonekano wako kimavazi, wakati mwingine unaweza kumkazia macho lakini hiyo haitamfurahisha bali itamtisha.

Kumchangamsha/kumfurahisha mwanamke kunahitaji kutengeneza mvuto(impression) zaidi ya muonekano na swaga.

Kama unataka kujua jinsi ya kumfurahisha mwanamke , mwanzo wa yote, huanza na maongezi. Na mwisho wa yote ni hapo pia.

Mawasiliano mazuri kimaongezi ndiyo njia pekee ya kumfurahisha na kumchangamsha msichana.

Yatumie haya mambo matano, na utafanikiwa hata kabla ya kufikia mwihso:

1. Mshawishi kupitia kitu anachokipenda
Unaweza kudahani hii haina umuhimu. Wanaume wengi hufikiri hivyo na hushangaa kwanini tu niongee kuhusu kitu ambacho msichana anakipenda. Kwanini wasichana nao wasiongee kuhusu vitu wanavyovipenda wanaume?

Wanawake huweza kufanya hivyo, japo hatujui. Wanawake wengi hujitahidi sana kujua wavulana hupenda kuongelea nini. Lakini, wakati unataka kumvutia msichana, ni muhimu ukajua ni kitu gani kinachoendelea kwenye mawazo yake. Sasa tambua kwamba, kujua kitu msichana anachokipenda haimaanishi, dhahabu, mitindo au vipodozi. Tofauti kati ya msichana na mvulana kwa namna ya kuishi imepungua sana kwa sasa(wanawake hufanya vingi ambavyo wanaume hufanya). Kwa maana hiyo ni rahisi kuwa na maongezi yenye kuvutia bila kuboa. Achana na mambo ya mahesabu, michezo, teknolojia, amini yatakua poa tu maongezi yenu.

2. Mtanie
Unapoongea na msichana, ni rahisi sana kumfanya na yeye aongee na wewe hatakama hakupenda mwanzo. Lakini hiyo haitoshi. Kama unataka kujua ni jisi gani ya kuongea na msichana/mwanamke, utapaswa kumfanya yeye ajisikie huru na mwenye kujiamini(confortable), lakini pia mfanye ajue kuwa unampenda hatakama haujamwambia.

Kumbuka, kama utaongea nae kama rafiki, lazima awaze na ajue kuwa wewe ni mwanaume noma sana(great guy), lakini hatahisi kwamba wewe ni mwanaume unaeweza kumchangamsha au kumfurahisha. Ili kuonekana kama mwanaume anayefurahisha kwa mwanamke yeyote, inatakiwa akuone kama mtu muhimu wa kukutana nae, na ili kufanya hivyo, msukume sukume hata bega katikati ya maongezi. Lakini usizidishe sana utaishia kumboa, fanya hivyo pale tu anapoongea jambo linalochekesha au lenye utani ndani yake.

Ila usiende na kumwambia maneno ya kawaida kama “unamuonekano mzuri”, “wewe ni mzuri sana”, au maneno yenye kufanana na hayo. Inawakera sana na haioneshi utofauti na watu wengine wa mtaani. Badala yake, jaribu kuwa specific wakati unamuambia jambo fulani mnapokutana. Mwambie maneno kama “umependeza sana leo. Huo ni mtindo mpya wa nywele?”, Hayo ni maneno mazuri sana kwa mwanamke kwa sababu ni wanaume wachache sana huyatumia kwao. Kwa hiyo unavyosema “leo umekua mrembo zaidi” inamfanya ajue ni jinsi gani unamaanisha mpaka umevunja ukimya.

Kwa kumtania huko – unaweza kufanya mambo matatu. Unaweza kumshtua na kumfanya atabasamu. Unaweza kumfanya ajue kwamba wewe unamuona mtu wa tofauti sana. Au tatu, unaweza kumfanya atambue kwamba umemwona wa kuvutia sana. Kumbuka hayo yote unamfanya yeye aone ni mtu mzuri ambaye anaweza kudate na wewe.

3. Kuwa mcheshi(be funny).
Baada ya kumfanya atabasamu na kuyafurahia maongezi yako na yeye, ni muda wa kumuingia ndani zaidi kidogo. Kila mmoja wetu anamambo yake ya siri ambayo hatupendi watu wote wajue labda mtu ambaye tunamwamini sana. Ili kumfanya ajiamini kwako, unatakiwa kumfanya awe na good time sana na wewe. Sasa hatuwezi kukuambia kabisa jinsi ya kumfanya mwanamke acheke. Lakini tunaweza kukupa mambo mawili ya kutumia. Usimwambie utani wowote wakati unaongea nae. Kuwa mwenye furaha muda wote unaoongea nae.

Hii inaweza kukutatiza kidogo. Kwanza kuongea utani wa moja kwa moja kama mtu aliyekariri ni ujinga. Badala yake, ongea nae maongezi yatakayomfanya aone unamtania, na hapo naye ataanza utani.

Jitahidi kuonesha unafurahia maongezi wakati unaongea nae kama unataka kumchangamsha. Ukiwa na furaha, dunia nzima inatabasamu pamoja nawe!. Kama unatabasamu na kujisikia furaha, naye atatabasamu pia na kuwa na furaha. Lakini kama unauoga, utamfanya naye awe
mwoga(unconfortable).

4. Unaweza kumsukuma kidogo kati kati ya maongezi
Najua unaelewa ninaposema kusukumana, hii utokea mara nyingi pale mvulana na msichana wanapukua wamezoeana, kwa hiyo kuifanya na mwanamke kwa mara ya kwanza inatakiwa uwe mwangalifu na makini ili usije kuharibu. Unapofanikiwa kufanya hivyo, jitahidi isiwe kila saa maana utamkera kama nilivyosema hapo awali.

Ili uweze kufanya hivyo inatakiwa uwe wa kawaida – chukulia kama ni mtu wa kawaida japo wewe unajua ni special. Muulize alifanya nini weekend au baada ya kutoka kazini, muulize anapenda kwenda wapi akitoka out au ni mgahawa gani anaupenda au anatamani kwenda au kitu kingine chochote ambacho ni binafsi(very personal). Lazima atajua wewe unamtania mana hakuna mtu ambaye anaweza kuulizwa maswali yote hayo na hajazoea kuulizwa, hivyo lazima afunguke.
Na bila kusitaa, usisahau kuuliza hili swali.

“Hey, samahani hii ni very personal – hivi una boyfriend? Kama unaye basi jua moyo wangu utavunjika vipisivipisi zaidi ya millioni hamsini sasa hivi!”, umeona ilivyo ya kichokozi eeh?. Lakini hii hufanya maajabu!.

Lazima acheke, lakini hiyo sentensi itaweka lengo lako kwake moja kwa moja, na lazima atajua kuwa unamtaka–hahahah!. Lakini angalia usiharibu kwa kuwa kituko baada ya kukupa jibu – maana unaweza kuta anaye, na kama atakwambia anaye tabasamu. Na ongelea mada nyingine tofauti kama vile swali lililopita halikumaanisha kitu kwako. Lengo lake lazima atakuwa ashalijua, na pia utafanikiwa kumfanya awe confortable kwako.

5. Mshike.
Huu ni uwanja hatari sana, lakini ni kitu unachopaswa kujifunza kwa sababu unataka kujua jinsi ya kumchangamsha msichana, si ndiyo? Hivyo kumshika katika muda muafaka inakamilisha point ya 5 ya mambo ambayo unapaswa kuyajua wakati unataka kumfurahisha mwanamke. Kama utafanikiwa kulifanya hili kwa usahihi, utakua umejichukulia point kubwa sana.

Sasa kumshika msichana ni kama kucheza na moto. Ukiushika fasta hauwezi kusikia joto, lakini ukiushika muda mrefu utaungua! Unaona ilivyo hatari?
Unaweza kumshika bega au mikono kama tayari ushamfurahisha vya kutosha. Lakini kumbuka hili, mshike tu pale unapokua na sababu ya kumshika, mfano mshike masikio kama unayasifia masikio yake au nywele kama unazisifia nywele zake, au mfute koti lake kama kuna kauchafu hatakama hana hako kauchafu, au mshike begani kama unatembea nae barabarani/ mtaani. Kumbuka kumshika mtu ni very personal, hivyo inabidi uwe makini sana na uangalie anamuitikio gani wakati unamshika kabla haujamshika tena.

Kama unataka kujua jinsi ya kumchangamsha msichana, yatumie haya mambo matano wakati utakapokutana na mwanamke next time. Na baada ya hapo utaona ni jinsi gani unavyoweza kumfurahisha mwanamke na kumfanya ayapende maongezi yako kwa mara ya kwanza!.

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Dare tips for a sex night

Truth or dare doesn’t have to be a group activity. Unless your friends are as kinky as fuck, you should only attempt these dares during a one-on-one game with your partner. It’ll make for some pretty amazing foreplay.But remember, these dares for couples have a way of arousing everyone a lot more than you think!1.Lick your partner’s ears.2.Spank, squeeze and pinch your partner’s butt.3.Place an ice cube on the girl’s navel until it melts.4.Pass a candy to your partner using just the lips / unwrap a candy together using only the lips.5.Kiss each other for a whole minute.6.Give your boyfriend a lap dance.7.One partner lies down. The other partner moves their hand or a feather all over the laying partner’s body including all strategic regions.8.Unhook your girlfriend’s bra and take it off her body using just one hand.9.Lift your girlfriend’s shirt up from the back all the way to the collar using just your teeth.10.Stroke your partner’s tee shirt/pants until we see the pants move or the tee shirt stiffen.11.Eat a melting chocolate off your girlfriend’s boobs12.Give your man a boner without touching his member.13.Suck all ten of your partner’s toes14.Blindfold one partner and should kiss three specific body parts chosen by the other couple by guessing the exact location without using hands.15.Hug each other topless16.Kiss your partner down there.17.Make out with each other with the clothes on / dry hump each other.18.Find your girlfriend’s nipple with your teeth / lick your girlfriend’s nipple19.Slip your hand into your partner’s jeans and keep it busy for a whole minute.20.Get under a blanket and have sex for a minute / make out for a minute

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Mwanamke kuwa mbunifu kuyanogesha mapenzi kwa mwenzi wako kwa kumtimizia haya;

Ndoa au Mapenzi ni tamko takatifu ambalo mamilioni ya watu tumejiingiza wenyewe kwa hiari.
Hii ina maana kwamba umepata mtu wa kuishi na wewe katika raha na shida zote hadi kifo.

Unakuwa umeingia katika kifungo cha Kupendana, kuheshimiana na urafiki, hata hivyo jinsi miaka inavyoenda unaweza kujikuta unapoteza umuhimu wa huu uhusiano na mbaya zaidi unaweza kujikutana unajisahau nini unahitaji kutoka kwa mwenzako.

Kuna mambo ya msingi ambayo mwanaume yeyote huhitaji kupata kutoka kwa mke wake mpenzi na kinachotakiwa kwa mwanamke ni yeye kufahamu nini mwanaume anahitaji na kuwekeza kidogokidogo kwa kuongeza jitihada na muda ili haya mahitaji kuwa kitu halisi.

Je ni Vitu gani mwanaume huhitaji sana kutoka kwa mke wake?

1.WANAUME HUPENDA KILE KILICHOKO AKILINI MWA MWANAMKE.

Wanawake ni viumbe tofauti sana (complex) wao ni walezi kwa asili, waumbaji wa vitu, wasimamizi wazuri na wabunifu sana.
Wanaweza kwa urahisi sana kuelezea kitu kilichopo kwenye akili zao likija suala la deal lolote la biashara kama kununua au kuuza.
Wanaweza sana kwenye mambo ya design na hata mawasiliano.
Ila likija suala mwanaume hapo ndiyo kuna tofauti.
Wanaume kawaida tunapenda kujua kwamba tumetimiza mahitaji ya wake zetu na itakuwa vizuri sana kama mwanamke atawezesha mwanaume kujua kwamba mahitaji yake kama mwanamke mume anayatimiza.
Kwa hiyo mwanamke ongea nini unahitaji, au nini unapenda kwa maneno au kwa matendo kwani kununa si jawabu au kubaki kimya si jawabu.
Jawabu ni kuelezana tena kwa upole na upendo jambo lolote unahitaji mwanaume afanye.

2.WANAUME UHITAJI MWANAMKE ANAEJUA KUKUBALIANA/KUAFIKIANA.

Je kama mume wako anapenda kuangalia au kucheza soccer siku za weekend kwa ajili ya kujiliwaza huwezi kuwa naye?
Kuna ubaya gani wewe kushangilia kile mume wako anapenda (hobbies)
Kumbuka maisha ndivyo yalivyo msipofurahi pamoja na kuwa na fun pamoja usitegemee siku mambo yabadilike yenyewe tu kuna kitu unahitaji kufanya sasa ili kesho iwezekane.

Penda kufanya pamoja kile kitu mume wako anakipenda katika maisha inaweza kuwa ni kuimba, jogging, kwenda kutembea sehemu yoyote ili pamoja au matamasha na michezo mbalimbali.
Kumbuka unaweza kuwa wewe hupendi kwenda naye huko yeye anapenda kwenda, lakini kuna wanawake wanafurahi kuwa naye huko wewe umekataa kwenda na hana njia kwani ni kitu anakipenda na ni sehemu ya maisha yake (kama hatendi dhambi).

3.WANAUME UHITAJI MWANAMKE ANAEJUA MAMBO.

Huwezi kutenganisha habari za siasa, michezo, biashara, current news, sayansi na mambo ya kimataifa na mwanaume, hivyo usijiweke nyuma sana unahitaji kuwa mtu wa karibu kupiga naye story za mambo kama hayo, jitahidi na wewe kuwa wamo.

Inawezekana jioni kabla ya kulala mkawa na glass ya juice mnakunywa wawili huku watoto wamelala, wewe mwanamke kwa ujasiri shusha story za michezo mambo ya Chelsea, Manchester united, Liverpool au hata Yanga na Simba just for fun, au hata habari za mafisadi au hata habari za mfalme Suleiman au Daudi au business ambazo umezitafiti hapo mwanaume atajua nina mke ndani ya nyumba.

Wapo wanawake mume akianza kuongea habari za siasa, michezo au business anaondoka zake na kumwacha naamini wanaume hapo huwa hawafurahii kabisa.
Nakwambia ukijua kuongea na mumeo mambo ambayo wanaume wote wanayapenda utafahamu mambo mengi sana kuhusu ulimwengu, watu na ninyi wenyewe.
Pia unaweza kubadilisha akili katika kufahamu mambo.
Hii huimarisha sana ukaribu na hamasa ya kila mmoja kutaka kusikia kwa mwenzake na matokeo yake ndoa inakuwa tamu maana huo usiku mkimaliza story lazima chumbani kuwake moto.

4.MWANAUME ANAHITAJI MWANAMKE AMBAE KWA MAPENZI NI MOTO.

Huwa kuna kawaida kwamba mwanaume katika jamii zetu za kiafrika ndiyo anakuwa mwamuzi wa mambo mengi kiasi kwamba hata wanawake wenyewe hutambiana kwamba jana mume wangu alinipeleka dinner sehemu.
Je, itakuwaje kama na wewe mwanamke siku ukamwambia mume wako leo pamoja na watoto tunaenda lunch sehemu au dinner sehemu kula, au kula kitimoto na nk pamoja na watoto wenu kwa hela yako au bajeti yako au maamuzi yako.
Wakati huo huo umetinga kiwalo chako cha nguvu hadi unamkumbushia zile enzi zenu ambazo zilifanya avutiwe na wewe hadi kukuoa.

Wanaume wanahitaji wanawake wa aina hiyo ambao siku zingine wanafanya vitu vya kuwatamanisha angalau hata kwa mwaka mara moja siyo mwaka mzima hujafanya jambo lolote la kuimarisha mapenzi.

Wanaume wanahitaji mwenzi siyo mtu wa kuishi naye chumba kimoja
Kuagana asubuhi na kuja kukutana jioni bila kuongea chochote mchana mzima ni dalili ya uhusiano usio na afya kabisa.
Jaribu kufikiri mwenyewe hivi ukiondoka asubuhi unawasiliana na mumeo mara ngapi?
Siku hizi karibu kila mtu ana simu ya mkononi, unaweza kutuma sms, au kumpigia just to say hi honey! Mbona wakati wachumba sms zilikuwa zinatumwa hadi vidole vikaota sugu, leo kunani?

Hamu na msukumo alionao mmoja kwa mwenzake ni msingi wa kuonesha afya na mahusuano yenye furaha.
Wakati mwingine mahusiano huenda bila mawasiliana ya mara kwa mara lakini hiyo ni sumu kubwa sana kwani inaweza kufikia kipindi hakuna hata kutakana, hamu ya kila mtu kwa mwenzake hupotea na hapo ndipo watu sasa huanza kuishi kama vile watu tofauti walioamu kuishi nyumba moja na chumba kimoja lakini ule moto umetoweka.

Kwa hiyo kama wewe ni mwanamke hakikisha unakuwepo katika mahusiano kwa maana kwamba unahitaji kumtia moyo mumeo, kumuinua pale anapokata tamaa uliza nini kinaendelea asubuhi, mchana, jioni na usiku, pia akifanya kitu kizuri mpe sifa na hongera.
Jifunze kwa busara na hekima kujua nini kinaendelea katika maisha ya mume wako na pia onesha kwamba unamjali sana (care) na kwa njia hiyo automatically atakupenda zaidi na ndoa yenu itakuwa imara zadi.

5.MWANAUME ANAHITAJI MWANAMKE HURU.

Ni kweli kila mmoja anamuhitaji mwenzake ili maisha yakamilike lakini kuna wakati mwanaume anahitaji kuona ana mke ambaye anaweza kuendesha mambo mwenyewe bila kushikwa mkono kwa kila kitu.
Pia wewe mwanamke usije mwambia mume wako sikuhitaji kwa sababu naweza kufanya mambo yote mwenywe hapo litakuwa zogo la ajabu.

Hapa nazungumzia ule uwezo wa mwanamke kuweza kuendesha mambo au familia hata kama mume hayupo. Tunajua sana wanawake mnaweza mambo mengi hata kuliko sisi wanaume ila kuna wanawake ambao bila mwanaume hawezi kufanya jambo lolote kiasi ambacho mume naye akajisikia kweli nina mke anayeweza.
Pia mwanamke hahitaji kuwa mtu wa kulaumu kila kitu, mtu wa kulalamika kila kitu, leo ukilalamika hiki kesho unaanza kingine na wakati mwingine unasingizia kwamba unaumwa wakati huumwi lengo kuuchanganya mwanume, hapo ujue unaipeleka ndoa au Penzi lako eneo hatari wanaume hawaipendi hiyo, wanapenda mwanamke asiye na malalamiko au lawama au msumbufu.

6.MWANAUME ANAHITAJI MWANAMKE ANAYEAMINIKA.

Bila kuaminiana, lazi kutuhumiana kunafuata na bila kuaminiana mahusiano hayawezi kuwa imara.
Mwanaume anahitaji mwanamke anayemwamini hasa pale anapokuwa hayupo.

Mwanaume anahitaji mwanamke mwaminifu huko kazini, mwanamke mwaminifu sokoni anakoenda, mwanamke mwaminifu mahali popote akiwa peke yake.
Kuwa mkweli ndiyo njia nzuri ya kujenga uaminifu, kiwe kitu kidogo au kikubwa ni muhimu kuwa mkweli na mwaminifu kwa mume wako.

Kumbuka ukidanganya kitu kimoja unahitaji kudanganya mara kumi na tano zaidi ili kufunika huo wongo kuwa ukweli hata hivyo ipo siku mambo yatagoma na mambo yakigoma utakuwa umepoteza uaminifu, na ukipoteza uaminifu ni kama kuyeyuka kwa barafu huwezi kurudisha.

Wakati mwingine kuwa mkweli na mwaminifu huonekana ngumu lakini ndiyo dawa halisi ya kuimarisha mahusiano ya ndoa yako, hata kama umenunua kitu kwa gharama sana huko dukani au sokoni mwambie ukweli bei halisi usiseme bei tofauti na ile umenunulia.
Kitu cha msingi, jaribu kufikiria kile unafanya je na wewe ungefanyiwa ungekubali? Au ungeridhilka?
Kazi kwako.

7.MWANAUME ANAHITAJI KUONA UNAVYOFANYA KTK MALEZI.

Wakati mwanamke anapochukua jukumu la kuwa mlezi katika familia mwanaume hujisikia raha sana.
Kile kitendo cha kuwasaidia watoto kama vile kufanya nao homework walizopewa shuleni, au kucheza pamoja kama vile soccer na mtoto wa miaka 4 au 5, mwanaume hujisikia raha sana kwa namna ambayo mwanamke anajibidiha kulea kile ambacho kwa pamoja mmekileta duniani.

Kama una watoto au bado kitu cha msingi lazima ujue kwamba mwanaume hujisikia vizuri sana pale unapohusika bega kwa bega kusimamia malezi ya hawa viumbe ambao mmepewa zawadi hapa duniani.
Kwa jamii zetu za kiafrika hili halina shida sana ingawa kwa huku Marekani na Canada ni kitu cha kawaida mwanaume kuachiwa kazi zote za malezi ya watoto na mwanamke akawa anakuangalia tu.

8.MWANAUME ANAHITAJI UWE RAFIKI YAKE MKUU DUNIANI.

Kama umewakuta mume na mke wakitembea wameshikana mikono naamini huwa unapata ujumbe kwamba na wewe unapenda kuwa na mume wa uhusiano wa aina hii.
(Sizungumzii wale wanafiki ambao chumbani wanazipiga na barabarani wameshikana mikono)
Binadamu ameumbwa kuwa muhitaji kwa kupendwa, muhitaji wa kuwa na rafiki kuwa na mwezi (companion) kuondoa upweke
(duniani wawili wawili mume na mke)
Mnahitaji kuwa mke na mume, lakini mnahitaji pia kuwa marafiki wakubwa siku zote.

Tunatumia muda mwingi sana kuwa na mke au mume hivyo ili kunogesha zaidi inabidi kuwa marafiki na kupeana story, michapo, kuchezezeana, kutaniana, kutembea sehemu pamoja, kucheka pamoja, kucheza michezo tunapenda pamoja, kujaribu vitu vipya pamoja.
Pia ni muhimu kuwa na marafiki wengine ila urafiki lazima uanze na ninyi wawili.

9.MWANAUME ANAHITAJI MWANAMKE MALAIKA WAKIWA SEBULENI NA MWANAMKE MTUNDU WAKIWA CHUMBANI.

Wanaume wanahitaji hot, tendo la ndoa ambalo linaleta msisimko, linalofurahisha na kutia hamasa mpya kila siku.
Jaribu vitu vipya, mikao, miguso, busu, na michezo ya kitandani au chochote umejifunza, acha woga kwamba atakuuliza nani kakufundisha, dunia ya leo tunaishi dunia ambayo wanaaiita information society, hivyo watu tunapashana habari na kufundishana kupitia magazeti, radio, TV, movie, internet nk.

Usiache kufanya kitu kipya huko chumbani eti kuogopa atakuuliza umejifunza wapi.
Kazi kubwa kwako ni kuhakikisha kitanda kinakuwa moto siku zote na pia kumpa vitu vya uhakika ili asitembeze macho nje kutokana na kuwa bored na mapishi ya aina hiyohiyo miaka nenda tudi.
Ni kweli kama umri umekwenda sana hamwezi kufanya kama ile miaka ya nyuma lakini isiwe sababu ya kutokuwa na sex yenye kuridhisha na mwanamke kuwa moto kitandani.

Miili yetu ni hekalu la Mungu la ajabu na la aina yake hapa duniani.
Mwili ni laini, una harufu nzuri, ukiguswa unapata raha ya ajabu, hivyo kama mwanamke unahitaji kujiweka safi na Tendo muda wote bila kujali umri.
Kitu cha msingi ni kwamba mume wako anakuhitaji wewe, anahitaji ladha mpya na utamu kila siku kutoka kwako iwe ni kukugusa kwa mikono yake, au kukuangalia kwa macho yake au kukunusua mwili wako kwa pua yake au kukusikia unaongea maneno matamu kwa masikio yake na kukuonja mwili wako kwa ulimi wake.
Ni kweli anakuhitaji wewe na si mwingine na kwa kuwa anakuhitaji wewe basi
Mpe raha

Mwisho
Kuna mambo ya msingi ambayo mwanaume anahitaji kwako na kuna kitu anataka kwako, kuna mambo mengi sana mwanaume anahitaji kwako kitu cha msingi timiza hizi ndoto kwa kuzifanyia kazi.
Kama utakuwa ni mtu unayekuwa mbunifu na mwenye kufanya mambo tofauti bila mazoea basi uhusiano wako na umpendaye utakuwa imara na mzuri kila iitwapo leo

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Four ways to overcome Jealousy in your relationship

Jealousy – That is unhealthy feeling that arises in most relationships. Where you want more attention from the person you love can do a lot more harm to you than you can ever imagine.

Your emotions can cause you to have thoughts that make you believe that there’s no hope. It’s dangerous and can cause your relationship to crumble. Getting jealous from time to time is normal but when it goes a long way, it becomes catastrophic.

Here are four ways to tame jealousy in your relationship:

1) Get your facts right

Yes, you suspect your spouse is cheating or you suspect there’s something going on between him and the lady next door, but how certain are you? Your suspicions may be due to his recent behaviour – the way he smiles or the new attention he gives to himself. Before you do anything drastic, figure out if it’s true.

Stalking him and reading his texts would only make you suspect him the more.

2) Talk to him about it

This might be the last thing on your mind, given the fact that you’re angry but talking about it is better.

You can say something like, “It looks like this new girl really made an impression on you. I don’t like feeling this way, but it makes me kind of jealous. Are you attracted to her?”

Something along that line will get him talking.

3) Set limits

Another thing to do is to set some boundaries. Most people enter relationships without expectations. Truth is, both of you need to sit and decide on what limits you’ll respect. Are you both allowed to befriend the opposite sex? And if you are, how do you handle having contact with them?

You owe it to yourselves and each other to talk about it and agree on what’s comfortable.

4) Make time for each other

The quality of time spent together is more important than the quantity. Time spent together can rid any feeling of jealousy.

Also there might be other ways that you may use to tame jealousy,,,what are them?

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Hivi ni kweli kuwa wanawake wenye msabwanda a.k.a tako ni watamu zaidi kitandani??

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Nahisi Kushindwa na ndoa; Mume Wangu Anatembea na Kondomu na KY Kwenye Gari

Mimi ni mwanamke nimeolewa na nina watoto wawili, mume wangu tulioana tukiwa tunapendana, lakini siku hizi mwenzangu matendo yake yamekuwa ya hovyo hata sina mapenzi naye tena.

Mara kwa mara namkamata katika mawasliano na wanawake tofauti tayari wakiwa kwenye mahusiano.

Kinachonichosha zaidi condoms haziishi kwenye gari anayokuwa nayo, mwanzo nlikuwa nazikuta anasingizia ni za rafiki yake hapo naye ni mtu mzima ana mke, nikawa napotezea hapo nilijua fika mume wangu ndo mtumiaji, imeniuma zaidi siku kipindi fulani gari yake imepata ajali wakati ikiwa kwenye matengenezo tukawa tunatumia ya kwangu sometimes nikaanza kukuta tena condoms kwenye gari, kubwa zaidi na ky gelly, moyo wangu uliuma sana yaani toka siku hiyo sipendi tena mume wangu na natamani kutengana naye kabisa ndugu zangu nifanye nini juu ya hili?

Ni mengi ya kueleza lakini yanayoniumiza zaidi ni hayo, na hiyo KY hata kwenye gari yake niliwahi kuikuta akaniambia ni ya rafiki yake, kilichokuja kinishtua zaidi ni pale nilikuta ameihamishia kwenye gari yangu na alisema sio ya kwake, nikatamani nimuite rafiki yake nipate ukweli lakini nikaona nitajidhalilisha tu nikaacha moyo unaniuma tu hadi sasa sina jamani tena katika moyo wangu na hata sina hisia naye jamani.

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Kudanga Vs Uchangudoa: Tofauti iko Wapi ? Je Kudanga Imehalalishwa?

Wasalaam wakubwa na wadogo ,
Siku hizi msemo wa kudanga umeshika sana momentum yaani tena waziwazi kina dada wanakwambia sina kazi yeoyote nina danga tu, hivi kuna tofauti kati ya kudanga na uchangudoa hadi watu wajitoe ufahamu na kuona udangaji kama moja ya kitu halali kabisa ?

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Tunda “Najichukia Kwasababu Nimemuumiza Whozu Naomba Anisamehe Turudiane”

Ameandika Tunda Kupitia Ukurasa Wake wa Instagram:

‘Najichukia kwasababu nimemuumiza mwanaume muaminifu na mwenye kunijali haijawahi tokea. Kama unaweza tafadhali nisamehe, nakuhitaji kwenye maisha yangu. Nilikua na tabia za kitoto kwako, naona aibu kwaajili ya tabia zangu, tafadhali nisamehe. Upendo wako ni hamasa tosha, usinikatili nia yangu ya kuwa na wewe. Nakupenda sana, nisamehe **Whozu ‘, ameandika Tunda kupitia ukurasa wake wa Insta

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How Long Would You to Date a Lady Before you Expect S*x From her?

How long would you to date a lady before you expect s"x from her? 

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1. A few days 
2. A week 
3. A month 
4. Three months 
5. Other (specify)

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Kuna Anguko la Vijana wa Kiume Kwenye Mahusiano? Wanakosea Wapi?

Kuna hali inarudi kwa kasi mno… Wazee kuoa mabinti wadogo sawa na watoto wao ama hata wajukuu

Kipindi cha nyuma walijulikana kama wazee wa bandari lakini hawa hawakuwa waoaji bali waliwaweka tu vimada kwa kuwqpangishia chumba, upande mzima ama nyumba kamili…
Siku hizi hiyo haipo tena… Mzee akifika bei binti anataka ndoa… Japo kiuhalisia mzee anaibiwa tuu…

Wadogo zetu mko wapi? Mnakosea wapi?

Mnajichua sana, show off nyingi, six packs na kujipodoa kwingi…. Kwa mwanamke mapenzi ni zaidi ya hivyo vitu…

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Top 10 ya makabila yenye wanawake wazuri haya hapa tafiti mpya 2019

Hebu Leo tupate new update za kumi bora ya makabila yenye wanawake wazuri tanzania.

1. Wahiraki, hawa ni wanawake wa jamii ya Wahiraki wa napatikana kaskazini mwa Tanzania wamezagaa mikoa ya manyara ni weupe Wana Umbo zuri wanavutia kwa Macho.

2. Warangi, hawa ni wanawake jamii ya Warangi ni wazuri nywele zao ni asili ya waraabu weupe sura nzuri wanapatikana kondoa

3. Wanyiramba. Hawa ni warembo Sana sura matata wanapatikana mkoa wa singida kaskazini, usipokua makini utawafananisha na wanyaturu

4. wamasai, kabila hili wanawake wazuri sio wengi Sana lakini ukikutana na sampuli Tatu au nne hivi utauza hata boxa kuongezea mahari wamezagaa Sana Arusha

5. Wahaya, hawa nao ni jamii ya Kanda ya ziwa maumbile Yao Kuna weupe miguu Yao ya bia shape matata wamejaa Sana bukoba.

6. wanyaturu, hawa wanafanana na Wanyiramba wanapatikana singida hasa ikungi na manyoni weupe wanavutia

7. Wapare, hii ni jamii ya kabila la Wapare wanapatikana moshi wilaya ya same wako vizuri usicheze kabisa na hili kabila shape nzuri.

8 .wamakonde, hawa wanapatikana kusini mwa Tanzania ni kabila lenye wanawake wazuri Sana hususani maumbo Yao na shape za kuvutia

9. Wasambaa, Kwanza weupe wanawake kitanga wamezagaa Sana tanga mjini

10. wanyakyusa moja kwa moja twende mbeya hawa wanawake wengi wao ni weusi lakini sura zao nzuri Sana black beauty

Nb: Mliooa kazi kwenu sijuhi uko namba ngapi hapo mchana mwema

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Amenisomesha, Kaninunulia Gari Lakini Sina Mapenzi Naye! Nifanyeje?

Mimi ni msichana mwenye umri wa miaka 28 Naishi Tabata jijini Dar nimejitokeza kwenu kuomba ushauri, Mimi na mpenzi wangu ambae amenisomesha toka form one hadi sasa nipo chuo kwani wazazi wangu walifariki wakati mimi nikiwa mtoto mdogo sana. 

Sasa huyu mpenzi wangu amenigharamia 

 yani kuanzia nguo zote hadi chakula nacho kula vyote ni msaada wake yeye na amejitolea kuninunulia gari la kutembelea na kanambia nitafute kiwanja ili tujenge nyumba ya kupangisha. 

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Ila mimi kwa sasa naona kama huyu mwanaume hatuendani kwani yeye hana elimu ila anafanya kazi kutumia akili ya kuzaliwa, Jamani mimi nataka kuishi na msomi mwenzangu ila huyu kaka mimi naona kama freemasson kwani kanisaidia sana asije akanitoa kafala, Mimi kwa sasa nimepata mpenzi mpya ambae anaelimu ya chuo pia ni sharo sio mshamba kama huyu wa zamani. 

Sasa please naombeni ushauri wenu jamani nimwambiaje kama sipo tayari kuishi na yeye huyu mpenzi wa zamani bila kuumiza moyo wake...?

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HIZI NDIO FAIDA ZA KUMSIFIA MKE/MPENZI WAKO KWENYE MAPENZI

KUNA baadhi ya watu hawaamini kama inawezekana kuwa na uhusiano wa furaha na amani. Katika tathmini ambayo imefanywa na wataalamu mbalimbali kuhusiana na suala la imani ya watu kuwa katika mahusiano ya furaha inaonesha kuwa zaidi ya asilimia 60 hawaamini furaha na amani katika mahusiano.

Wengi wanaona mapenzi ni kama njia ya utumwa ya kuridhishana tu kimwili, kusaidiana masuala ya kiuchumi na yenye furaha ya kufikirika tu ila si suala linaloweza kumpa mtu amani na thamani stahili.

Wengi wanasema hivyo kwa sababu kadhaa. Wapo waliobadili zaidi ya wapenzi watatu kwa kutafuta furaha na bado wakaikosa.

Wapo walioonesha kupendwa sana mwanzoni kisha baadaye kila kitu kikayeyuka. Kwa sababu hii wengi wanajiambia kupitia hisia zao za ndani kuwa furaha katika mahusiano ni hadithi tamu kuisoma ila isiyokuwa na uhalisia wowote.

Na wewe msomaji wa makala hii ni miongoni mwa wanaoamini katika fikra hizo? Fikra za kuwa mahusiano ya mapenzi si lolote ila ni eneo tu la kuteseka kuliko kupata furaha ya nafsi?

Mbali na imani hiyo ya watu wengi ila tathimini inaonesha kuwa kila mhusika katika uhusiano anaweza kuwa na amani stahili kama tu atajua majukumu yake na kuyatekeleza vizuri.

Tathmini inaonesha kuwa wote walio katika mahusiano ya amani, raha na burudani ni wale wanaojitolea kwa kila kitu kwa wenzao huku wale wanaoteseka ni wale wanaosubiri mema kutoka kwa wenzao.

Iko hivi. Hakuna mahusiano duniani yatakayokuwa na raha kama wahusika ‘wanasikiliziana’ katika kuyajenga. Yaani mwanaume anaangalia mwanamke anamfanyia nini ili naye afanye. Mwanamke pia anaangalia mwanaume wake anamfanyia nini ili naye amfanyie. Ni kama wanaviziana hivi.

Kama mmoja leo akimtumia ‘sms’ mwenzake, naye kesho atatuma. Kama mmoja akimpigia simu mwenzake na isipokelewe na yeye baadaye anafanya hivyo pia. Ujinga huu umeharibu ladha katika mahusiano mengi.

Funguo ya mahusino ya amani ni kumpa mwenzako raha bila kujali yeye anakufanyia nini. Kitaalamu imethibitika kuwa binadamu anaathiriwa zaidi na mambo unayomfanyia.

Kwa maana nyingine ni kuwa unapomfanyia mwenzako ujinga, dharau, ama dhihaka hiyo inakuwa si njia ya kumfanya yeye akufanyie mema. Badala yake, atafadhaika( disappointed), ataumia na kulipiza. Binadamu kaumbwa hivi.

Ushahidi wa haya ni mahusiano yaliokosa amani. Mengi ya mahusiano hayo huwa hivi, mmoja alimfanyia mwenzie ujinga na mwenzake, pia akaona dawa ya moto ni mto. Matokeo yake kibanda chao cha mahusiano leo kinafuka moshi.

Kama unahitaji amani na raha ya kweli katika uhusiano wako, kuwa mtoa raha( pleasure giver), kuwa mtoa furaha na pia usiwe na jicho la haraka la kuona makosa ya mwenzako na badala yake ona mazuri yake.

Kwa kuangalia zaidi mazuri yake itakufanya umuone mwenzako wa thamani na hadhi hivyo kupata sababu ya kumtendea wema.

Kila binadamu ana kiwango fulani cha hali ya kurudisha kila analotendewa( retaliating amount). Ndiyo maana hata mtaani wengi wanaosalimiana ni wale wanaosalimiana kila siku.

Ni ngumu sana kumkuta mtu akikusalimia hata kama kila siku muanzaji huwa ni yeye. Ili kuwapo na umoja bora baina yenu mmoja lazima amuanze mwenzake katika salamu kisha mwingine atajisi( feel) anapaswa kuanza kukusalimia ama kukufanyia jema lolote

Kwa ajili ya amani na raha ya uhusiano wako, fanya mazuri kwa mwenzako. Kufanya mazuri kwa mwenzako hata kama unafanyiwa ubaya si kwa kuwa mhusika kakuweza sana, si kwa sababu yeye ni mzuri ama tajiri sana ila ni kwa ajili ya kuleta amani na uimara wa mahusiano yenu.

Uhusiano makini unajengwa na unyenyekevu. Sasa unyenyekevu utaonekana vipi kama kila mmoja anajiona zaidi ya mwenzake?

Ili uimara wa mapenzi uwapo ni lazima mmoja baina yenu ajione mnyonge kiasi na kukubali kujifanya mjinga kwa muda. Yote haya unafanya kwa ajili ya amani ya baadaye ama kesho.

Kila jambo zuri linahitaji hali ya kujitolea na mbinu. Bila mbinu kila siku utakuwa ukibadili wapenzi. Na mbinu makini ya kuchochea upendo na raha katika mahusiano yako ni kumfanyia mwenzako mema bila kuangalia yeye anakufanyia nini.

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warembo hawa duuuuh.

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Je,,unafahamu ni kwanini wanaume hununua Mapenzi…soma hii somo lote liko hapa

Kwa nini wanaume hununua sex?

Mwanaume anaondoka na kwenda kumtafuta mwanamke wa kumlipa fedha ili ampe sex bila kuhusisha upendo au mahusiano wala kuhusisha hisia kati ya wawili.

Suala la wanawake Malaya (prostitutes) kuua mwili kwa wanaume ni suala la dulia zima haijalishi ni mzungu au mweusi au muasia, wasomi na wasio wasomi, maskini na matajiri, waliooa na ambao hawajaoa wote wamekuwa wakijihusisha na hii tabia.

Wanaume walioulizwa kwa nini wanaenda kununua sex wengi walitoa Sababu zifuatazo Ingawa walikiri kwamba wakati wa sex na hao Malaya huwa wanajisikia aibu, hatia, na hisia hasi kulipa ili upate sex.

Sababu kubwa ya wanaume kununua mapenzi wengi walikiri ni kumridhisha hitaji ya sex na raha yake kwa wakati ule (32%)

Waliofuatia walisema Sababu kubwa ni kutaka kupata ladha Tofauti ya mwanamke (21%)

Wengine walikiri kwamba wanaenda kununua sex kwa Sababu hawapati kile wanahitaji kutoka kwa wake zao nyumbani (20%)

Wengine walikiri kwamba ni kwa Sababu wao wana fedha na Malaya wanapatikana bila Tatizo (15%)

Asilimia 8 walikiri kwamba wananunua sex kwa Malaya kwa Sababu ya kufurahia tu sex ( thrill/surprise)wanayopata

Na asilimia 3 walikiri kwamba kununua sex kwa Malaya ni addiction ambayo imo ndani yao kama walivyo walevi au wavuta sigara.

Je, hawa wanaume hufanyia wapi hivi vitendo vyao ya kununua sex na Malaya?

Wengi walikiri kwamba sehemu ambazo unaweza kununua sex kwa Malaya ni kwenye danguro (60%), sehemu za kufanya massage (47%), wana

otoa huduma za kusindikiza (33%) na Saunas (27%).

Sehemu zingine ni makaburini, kwenye magari na wakati mwingine huchukuliwa majumbani kwa hao wanaume.

Hata hivyo cha ajabu ni kwamba hawa wanaume wanakiri kwamba kama Hakuna Malaya wa wao kununua sex wangeweza kubaka kama Hakuna kukamatwa na wanaamini kwamba hawa Malaya hawana haki au kuongea chochote wakati wa sex kwa kuwa wamewanunua.

Je, hawa wanaume hupata kitu gani kwa hawa Malaya wanaowauzia sex?

Wengi wanakiri kwamba Hakuna kipya wanakipata kwa hawa Malaya na baada ya sex hujikuta wapo empty moyoni, aibu na kujutia matumizi ovyo ya fedha hata hivyo cha ajabu pamoja na kujisikia vibaya bado wanaendelea kwenda kununua hiyo huduma.

Hata hivyo wapo wanaume ambao wamekiri wazi kwamba hawajui namna ya kujihusisha na mwanamke na kufanya bonding ya mapenzi hivyo njia rahisi kwao ni kulipa na kumpata huyo Malaya.

Je, Malaya nao hufurahia sex Wakiwa na wateja wao

Mmoja ya mteja amesema si sahihi kwa Malaya kupata raha ya sex kwa kuwa hana haki Kwani ameuza na kazi yake ni kumpa raha aliyenunua vinginevyo utakuwa ni uchakachuaji.

Je, wanawake Malaya wana sifa Tofauti na wanawake wengine?

Wazoefu ya hiyo huduma wanakiri kwamba ni kweli wanao uwezo wa kufanya vitu ambavyo mwanamke wa kawaida hawezi kuvifanya kwa mwanaume vitendo ambavyo wengine huviona kama vinachefua.

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Romantic bedroom ideas

You may not believe it, but the essential part of the house is the bedroom . The best memories are created inside the bedroom and between the sheets . So, you better prepare yourself with some of the best romantic bedroom ideas to enjoy the moment together.

There was a point in history when a vast majority of the population lives in a home that’s just a single bedroom. There are still places in Europe and the rural USA where the bathroom is just a hole on the ground .

Even when you’re roughing it in the wild, the tent is nothing more than a portable bedroom. The reason why the bedroom is the most crucial part of the house is simple.

We are most vulnerable when we are asleep. We have to do it every day for more than a few hours. We need something to protect ourselves from the elements and other things that go bump in the night.

Bedroom ideas for couples

Sleep isn’t the only thing that happens in the bedroom. A lot of intimate moments happen there . It’s possible to screw in every corner and furniture in the house, but it wouldn’t be as sweet and romantic as the ones done in bed.

So get creative with some of th

e best and most romantic bedroom ideas which you can try out every time you both hit th

e bed together.

Any couple living together knows this, especially if they are living with kids or other members of the family.

Having sex everywhere is a lot of fun, but it’s not always possible in a house full of other people.

It is why the couple’s bedroom is special . It is a private room inside a private home.

Here are some romantic and practical bedroom ideas for couples.

Romantic bedroom ideas for couples

1. Invest in a reliable lock

Bedrooms are not just for privacy; it is also where valuables are usually stored. Good locks not only protect your privacy and security, but it will also prevent your grown children from walking in on you during quality time.

2. Consider soundproofing

Sex is much more exciting when you can moan and scream at the top of your lungs. Dirty talks also help increase excitement and give a more intense experience.

Serious couples also discuss serious matters.

Ensuring nobody overhears your adult (a different kind of adult)talk can prevent future troubles Smell it.

The human olfactory stimuli is stronger than other senses because of its short-range. The brain never learned how to filter out the noise the way it does with visual and auditory stimuli.

So invest in scents , whether it’s incense, vaporizers, scented candles, or other items; no sexy bedroom is complete without it.

3. Color your world

Cool colors are relaxing.

Warm colors encourage intimacy.

Learn to work with both, but your bedroom motif should only be one or the other. Cool and Warm colors clash . So decide which one works best for you. It is possible to have the best of both worlds through lighting.

Paint your bedroom with cool colors and have warm lighting. It is a must-have for any romantic bedroom.

4. Remove clutter

Romantic bedroom decorations shouldn’t include dirty clothes and shoes all over the place. Any clutter can ruin the mood, mainly if one party is OC . Any romantic bed settings don’t include trash all over the place.

Even if it isn’t trash, if the room is cluttered , it will ruin the mood , especially if you step on something sharp.

5. A large bed

There is something in the human psyche that gets excited when we see a large bed. After all, the bed is the centerpiece of all romantic bedrooms .

Studies show that it has something to do with social status since the middle ages, that’s why bed sizes are named as such.

Couple bed sets are available for a bit of humor and silliness, but they are not too appropriate if romantic is what you are going for. Beddings can help a lot in setting the mood.

Red silk is traditionally good.

White also helps the atmosphere, but it’s not advisable due to its inherent weakness with all kinds of stains.

6. Pillow fight

Speaking of beds and beddings, for some reason, it also helps with the atmosphere when there are lots of pillows.

It may not be your idea of romantic style, but lots of big pillows do help raise libido .

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Wanaume Mnao Jisifia Mnajua Mambo Sita kwa Sita Mnaboa Wengi Si lolote..One Minute Man

KWANINI BAADHI YA WANAUME WANA  MAUMBILE MAFUPI NA UPUNGUFU WA NGUVU ZA KIUME   DR MACHEMLA NDO SULULISHO LAKO  tatiza, hili limekuwa likiwaasili watu wengi,sana kisaikolojia hasa baadhi yao kujiona wako tofauti na wanaume wengine, kwa kawaida, mwanaume anatakiwa awe na uume, usiopungua nchi  6-7au-8 ,vinginevyo mtu huyo anamatatizo zipo , sababu nyingi zinazosababisha, tatizo hilo baadhi ni (i) upungufu wa vichocheo  vya,  HORMONES  ZA CETROGEN  ambazo mwanaume,  anapobarehe vichocheo hivi, HORMONES hizo, husaidia ukuaji wa uume

SUPER MIZIZI, ni dawa  inayozalisha HORMONES ZA CETROGEN,na kufanya, uume  kukuwa  na kuongzeka sazi utakayo na kuzibua mlija iliysinyaa, NSHOLA ni dawa bora,  ya kurudisha nguvu, za, kiume  bari inatibu  ,kabisa kutoa tatizo hilo, na kukupa , hamu ya , kurudia tendo, la ndoa zaidi, ya mala nne 4  ,bila kuchoka  atakama unaumli ,wa mika 80,! pia ana ,dawa za  ,kutibu,  presha ya  kupanda ,na kushuka,  kisukari kuondoa, mafuta , mwilini ,na maumivu ya, mgogo kiuno,  dawa zipo,  matazo,  ya hedhi, kwa ,wanawake hedhi, zisizokuwa na, mpangilio, na kasonono, pia , vidonda ,vya,  tumbo ,(STOMACHI UCLENS)  IHUSHI ndoji lako

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MWANAMKE ANAYETOKA NJE YA NDOA HUWA NA DALILI HIZI..,

1) Anatembea na vidonge vya majira kwenye mkoba wake, wakati mume amefanyiwa Vasectomy (Kufunga kizazi kwa mwanaume)

2) Anakuwa na namba ya siri ya simu ambayo mume haijui

3) Anatumia muda mwingi anapokwenda sokoni au kufanya manunuzi ya wiki

4) Anajinunulia nguo za gharama zikiwemo nguo za ndani bila kumshirikisha mume

5) Anakuwa akitegemea zaidi ushauri kutoka nje kwa watu wengine zaidi ya mumewe

6) Anaacha kuvaa pete ya ndoa bila sababu

7) Anapopigiwa simu akiwa karibu na mumewe anaizima au kwenda kupokelea nje

8) Anakuwa hajali tena mambo ya familia na hujiamulia mambo yake mwenyewe

9) Ni rahisi sana kusema ‘nipe talaka yangu’ inapotokea kutofautiana hata kwa jambo dogo.

10) Dharau na kejeli kwa mume hujionyesha waziwazi

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mbinu wanayotumia wanandoa walioajiriwa mjini kuchepuka.

Nina uzoefu kidogo na mambo ya kazi za ajira maofisini, nimefanya hivi kwa muda mrefu. Wakati flani nilifanya kazi katika ofisi zilizo katikati ya jiji, kule mitaa ya Posta jijini Dar es Salaam.

Ofisi nyingi za serikali na watu binafsi zinapatikana mitaa ile. Kutokana na sababu hiyo, kuna idadi kubwa pia ya migahawa, hoteli, mama ntilie, pub na kadhalika.

Kuna mambo mawili makubwa yenye ushawishi mkubwa wa usaliti. Ofa za chakula au vinywaji na usafiri. Kwa kawaida, wafanyakazi wa ofisi moja hupenda kutoka pamoja wakati wa chakula cha mchana, wenyewe tunapendelea zaidi kusema lunch!

Kila mmoja ana sehemu yake anayokula kulingana na kipato chake, wapo wanaokwenda Southern Sun kupata chakula cha mchana, na wapo wanaowafuata mama ntilie wanaojibanza kwenye vichochoro vingi vilivyopo mjini.

Huko ndiko tunakokutana na akina dada waliovalia vizuri na kupendeza, wakitokea katika maofisi mbalimbali, huwezi kujua yupi ni mhudumu wa chai, yupi ni bosi, wote wanang’ara. Na hapa ndipo ofa za misosi zinapoanza kushawishi ngono.

Kijana mmoja mwenye kipato kikubwa ofisini kwake, atavutiwa na msichana mrembo mwenye mshahara wa wastani. Ili kumsogeza karibu, atalipia chakula cha siku hiyo na kumualika kwa kesho yake. Kulipiwa chakula ni jambo dogo, lakini lenye thamani kubwa sana. Si rahisi mtu aliyekulipia chakula kwa nia njema, ukaacha kumshukuru na hata kumwelekeza unapofanya kazi.

“Mimi nipo pale Oj Traders,” msichana anaweza kujita mbulisha jina na kusema anapofanyia kazi huku mkaka akimweleza kuwa yeye ni mhasibu katika ofisi flani. Watakapo

kutana mara ya pili, wataachiana namba za simu.

Baada ya hapo, mkaka atafanya mbwembwe za kuhamahama maeneo ya lunch ili mradi tu mdada wa watu aingie kwenye laini.

Ukimaliza suala la lunch, kuna hii kitu foleni, hasa kwa wakazi wa Dar es Salaam. Raha ya kufanya kazi katikati ya jiji inaingia shubiri kadiri jioni inavyozidi kusogea. Kuanzia saa kumi, ni vurugu katika vituo vya daladala na hasa wakati kama huu ambao bodaboda zimezuiliwa kuingia mjini.
Wenye magari binafsi ndiyo wakati wao wa kujidai, ingawa foleni inawakumba wote. Lakini ni afadhali ukiwa kwenye foleni ndani ya gari dogo, mko wawili kuliko foleni, umeshika bomba kwenye daladala.

Siyo rahisi kwa mdada kukataa lifti ya kijana mwenye gari. Na katika foleni ndefu, ni wazi kwamba hadi mwisho wa safari, watakuwa wameshabadilishana namba. Kwa msichana, kuwa na uhakika wa usafiri kila siku ni ukombozi.

Tusidanganyane, hakuna msichana ambaye hatajua kuwa lunch au usafiri anaopewa unahitaji malipo maalum, ambayo ni penzi. Hali hii haiko Dar tu, bali nchi nzima na pengine duniani kote.

Mwanamke aliyeajiriwa anakuwa katika mitihani mikubwa zaidi ya kusaliti ndoa au uhusiano wake, kwa sababu hata kama haitakuwa kwenye chakula au usafiri, bado watu anaokutana nao katika utendaji wake, wanaweza kumghasi. Fikiria anakutana na mabosi, marafiki wa mabosi wake, wafanya biashara, atapona kweli?

Hata hivyo, simaanishi kama tabia hii inawakumba waajiriwa wote, isipokuwa nadhani ni sehemu kubwa wanahusika!

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messi aibuka mchezaji bora wa FIFA 2019 , ronaldo hajatokea.

Shirikisho la soka Ulimwenguni FIFA leo lilihitimisha kilele cha utoaji wa tuzo za FIFA The Best 2019 kwa kutangaza wachezaji mbalimbali waliofanikiwa kushinda.

Tuzo iliyokuwa inasubiriwa kwa hamu ni tuzo ya mchezaji bora wa mwaka wa kiume ambapo ilikuwa ikiwaniwa na Virgil van Dijk wa Liverpool, Cristiano Ronaldo wa Juventus na Lionel Messi wa FC Barcelona.

Ronaldo hakutokea katika sherehe za utoaji wa tuzo hizo zilizofanyika Italia na Lionel Messi kuibuka mshindi kwa mwaka 2019 na kuwashinda Ronaldo na Van Dijk, hii ndio mara ya kwanza kwa Messi kushinda tuzo hiyo toka mfumo mpya uanzishwe.

Jurgen Klopp wa Liverpool akiibuka kocha bora wa mwaka, Megan Rapinoe raia wa Marekani akiibuka mchezaji bora wa mwaka wa kike.

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maneno 14 anayotamani mwanamke umwambie.

Ikija katika maswala ya kuwavutia wanawake, kile kitu ambacho utamtamkia kitakusaidia pakubwa katika azma yako ya kumuwini.

Hakuna ujanja wowote ambayo unatumika bali ni maneno yako. Wanawake ni viumbe ambao ni wasikilivu ilhali wanaume ni viumbe waangalifu, hivyo matumizi yako ya maneno ni silaha nzito ambayo umebarikiwa nayo.

Ok. Ikija katika usikilizi, kila mwanamke huwa tofauti. So itabidi umsome mwanamke kwanza na uyafahamu mambo gani anapenda ili ikija wakati wa kumtamkia maneno itakuwa rahisi kwako kumteka kihisia. Tumeandaa orodha ya maneno ambayo ukiyatumia yapasavyo yatakusaidia kumzuzua mwanamke yoyote awe rafiki yako ama mpenzi wako. Zama nasi.

#1 Yuko smarti. Hapa hauwezi kukosea wakati utakapomwambia kuwa anapendeza. Unachohitajika ni kumtamkia maneno kama haya wakati ufaao. Unaweza kumweleza sehemu ambayo unaona yuko smarti na utakuwa unamfurahisha wakati wote.
#2 Unapenda jazba na msukumo wake. Kama umeona kuwa mwanamke aina hii ana ari na msukumo wa kufanikisha jambo flani basi unapaswa kumpongeza. Kama hana msukumo wowote katika maisha halafu umsifie atashangaa unamsifia na nini. So hakikisha kuwa unampa sifa aina hii kulingana na msukumo wake wa kutimiza jambo fulani katika maisha yake.

#3 Unapenda vyenye anavyoishi. Hapa unamsifia maisha yake yote. Hii ina maana kubwa katika kila kitu cha maisha yake. Wakati unapomtamkia maneno kama haya hakikisha kuwa unakuwa serious na kile ambacho unatamka.

#4 Kuwa yeye ni muhimu kwako. Kama unajaribu kumuonyesha mwanamke kuwa unamweka kipao mbele katika maisha yako unapaswa umwambie kuwa yeye ni muhimu katika maisha yako. Haya ni matamshi mazito ambayo utamfurahisha na kutamani kuwa na wewe milele.

#5 Yeye ni tofauti na wengine. Kila mwanamke anatamani kuwa spesho. Wanatamani kuwa tofauti na wanawake wengine wale wote. So msifie mwanamke na umwambie kuwa yeye ni tofauti, hakuna mwanamke mwengine ambaye anaweza kufikia kiwango chake. Utafaulu kumuwini.

#6 Unajali maslahi yake. Wanaume wengi mara nyingi huwa wanashindwa kutamka maneno haya mbele ya mwanamke japo kuwa ni matamshi rahisi ya kusema. Hapa si lazima uingie ndani ueleze sababu zako zote. Kumtamkia maneno kama haya yanatosha kwa mwanamke.

#7 Ni mrembo zaidi ya maumbile. Hapa unatuma ujumbe wakumwambia kuwa yeye kando ya kuwa ni mrembo kimwili, pia ni mrembo ndani yake. Mweleze kinjia ambayo hakutaleta kana kwamba ni mrembo kimaumbile pekee.

#8 Anakusisimua bila hata kujaribu chochote.  Hii ni silaha nzito unapaswa kuitumia kwa kuwa wanawake wengi hupenda kuskia matamshi kama haya. Wanawake wana hisia ndani zao so ukimtamkia maneno kama haya watahisi kujishasha/sifu hivyo wataskia vizuri ndani yao.

#9 Kama anataka kuongea uko tayari kumsikiliza. Hii inaweza kuonekana kama ni mambo ya friend zone lakini ukweli ni kuwa wanawake hupenda kusikilizwa na wapenzi wao. Hii inamaana kuwa uko tayari kutenga nafasi yako spesheli ili uongee naye. Atajihisi tofauti.
#10 Utakuwa karibu naye kwa shida na raha. Mwanamke anataka utumishi kutoka kwako. Kama una upendo ndani yako kwake, basi atahisi usalama, kukamilika na kupendwa. Hivyo baada ya kusoma hii post spesheli tulioiandika hapa Nesi Mapenzi, unapaswa kumtamkia maneno haya mpenzi wako.

#11 Unataka kusapoti ndoto zake. Wanawake huwa na ndoto zao katika maisha. Hivyo ukionyesha usaidizi wako kwake kutamfanya akuthamini na kukupenda zaidi. Usisahau swala hili muhimu katika mapenzi.

#12 Unamshukuru kwa kila kitu. Kuwa katika relationship lazima pia uwe unaeleza hisia zako kwa mpenzi wako. Na njia moja ya kufanya hivi ni kwa kumshukuru mpenzi wako kwa kila jambo ambalo ameweza kukufanyia katika maisha yako.

#13 Unataka ushauri wake. Wanawake pia hupenda maoni yao yasikilizwe kuhusiana na jambo fulani. So usichelewe kumuuliza ushauri mpenzi wako hata kama ni jambo dogo. Hilo hilo dogo litamfanya kuona unathamini uwepo wake.

#14 Mwambie kuwa una plan nzuri ya nyinyi wawili. Wanawake wangependa kuona kuwa wapenzi wao wanapanga mambo ya usoni katika maisha wakiwa wamehusishwa. Hili ni jambo muhimu ambalo wanawake wangependa kusikia wapenzi wao wakiwatamkia.

Ok. Upo!? Haya ndio baadhi ya mambo ambayo wanawake wanatamani kuskia kutoka kwa wapenzi wao hivyo unapaswa kuchangamka sahizi na kutafuta maneno ambayo yanawiana na mpenzi wako sahizi.

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utundu wa kumfanya mwanamke ajitolee nguo yeye mwenyewe

Mbinu hizi unaweza kuzitumia kwa girlfriend wako ama unaweza kuzitumia kwa mwanamke ambaye umeweza kujuana na yeye. Kama umechoshwa na kila siku ni wewe ndie wa kumvua nguo basi hakuna shida, leo atazivua mwenyewe. Mbinu zenyewe ni kama zifuatazo:

#1 Mwambie avue mwenyewe.

Hii ndio njia ya moja kwa moja ambayo unaweza kumwambia mwanamke avue nguo. Je hii mbinu ushawahi kuitumia awali? Na kama uliitumia ulipata majibu gani kutoka kwa mwanamke?

Kutumia hii mbinu lazima umpatie masharti yaliyo moja kwa moja. Kwa mfano badala ya kumwambia “avue nguo zake” unapaswa kumwambia “avue shati lake”. Maagizo ambayo ni rahisi kutimiza huwa ni vigumu kwake kukataa.

Kwa mwanamke ambaye anakataa/mgumu kutimiza jambo hilo, wakati mzuri wa kumwambia “avue [semehu ya nguo] yake” ni wakati ambapo mumepata kuongea maongezi ambayo yamegusa mioyo yenu. Kwa mfano umejaribu kumfanya avue shati lake kwa muda wa dakika 30 na amekataa muda huu wote, so umeamua kutulia kidogo uangalie ni kitu gani kinaendelea kwa nafsi yake. Unaongea naye vizuri na unampendeza, halafu anakwambia kuwa mambo yameenda haraka wewe na yeye na mlijuana tu hivi karibuni. Unadeal na hili jambo alilokwambia, muelezee filosofia yako ya “ule wakati ambao unapeleka mambo polepole huwa ni pale ambapo unameet na mwanamke usiyempenda, (ama waweza kumwambia filosofia yako yeyote ile ambayo unapenda kuitumia), halafu unarudi kuendelea kumkiss. Na kabla hujajaribu kumvua shati wewe mwenyewe wakati huu, unasita mwanzo, unamwangalia kwa macho yake na kumwambia: “Vua shati lako”

Atatii kile ambacho umemwagiza afanye.

Unaweza kuongeza sababu kama unaona kuwa anahitaji kushawishiwa kidogo. Kwa mfano unaweza kumwambia maneno kama; “Vua sidiria yako angalau matiti yapumue”, “Vua jeans yako sababu kifungo chake kinaniumiza. Sababu yeyote ambayo unaona inaweza kuwa sababu ya kufuata maagizo yako wewe tumia tu bora tu mwisho wa siku aweze kuvua kila kitu ambacho unatamani avue. Hata kama ni sababu isioeleweka kama “ngozi yako inahitaji kupumua” wewe tumia muhimu ni kuwa unafungua matamanio yake ya kuwa uchi na wewe na kumpa sababu za kufanya vitu ambavyo angetamani kufanya.

#2 Jenga tenshen na utumie vizingiti.

Njia nyingine ya uhakikisho ya kumfanya mwanamke avue nguo mwenyewe ni kwa kujenga tenshen. Na tenshen inaweza kujengwa kwa kutumia mbinu zifuatazo:

Kumkiss kiromantic (kwenye midomo na kila mahali)

Kumtomasa mwili mzima na mikono yako

Kupumua kwa ngozi yake

Kuuskuma mwili wake kwa ukuta ama kwa kitanda

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Wakati mwingine ukimsisimua mwanamke vya kutosha anaweza kuwa active hadi akavua nguo mwenyewe. Lakini wanawake wengi hawawezi kufanya hili jambo…hata uwasisimue mara ngapi, watalala tu hapo wakingojea uwafanyie kila kitu, wakungojee wewe uwavue nguo.

So mara kadhaa, kama wataka mwanamke avue nguo yeye mwenyewe, lazima umshawishi afanye jambo hilo.

Hivyo matumizi ya vizingiti inaingilia kati. Kama hujapata kujua maana ya vizingiti ni kuwa ni matamshi yeyote ambayo yanajenga changamoto kwa mwanamke apitie ili apate kile ambacho anataka. Bora tu ahisi hio changamoto atakayoipitia ina manufaa kwake.

Kwa mfano uko katika klabu na mwanamke mnajienjoy, halafu mazungumzo yenu yamefika kileleni, halafu unamwambia, “Naskitika kuona hawa watu wote wametuzunguka, kwa sababu kama tungekuwa pekeetu mimi na wewe hapa sahizi ningezivua hizo nguo zote ulizozivaa mara moja,” huu ni mfano wa kizingiti. Kizingiti hapa ni “hawa watu wote”, Hawa wato wote ndio wanakuwa kizingiti chako cha kukuzuia kutohakikisha kuwa unamvua nguo zote. Anaweza kuvutiwa na jazba yako kuona ya kuwa unatamani kumfanyia vituko lakini unazuiwa kutofanya unachothaminia kwa kuwa kuna watu wengi, ama anaweza kuchukua hatua ya kuondoa hicho kizingiti (katika hali kama hii anaweza kukuambia mwende sehemu nyingine: anaweza kujitolea, “Tunaeza enda kwangu”)

Kumfanya mwanamke avue nguo mwenyewe, unaweza kutumia vizingiti kama:

“Naskitika kukuona umevalia sidiria muda huu. Ningependa kunyonya chuchu zako”

“Natamani nisingekuona umevalia shati sahizi coz nataka kuzamisha uso wangu kwa matiti yako”

“Ni mbaya sana nakuona umevalia jeans zako sababu kile kitu ambacho nilikuwa nataka kukufanyia hungeamini katika hisia zako.”

“Kama ungekuwa hujavalia chupi sahizi ningekuwa nakufanyia mambo ambayo hujawahi kushuhudia maishani mwako”

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Ufunguo hapa ni kuhakikisha kuwa masharti yako fioa yanaeleweka vizuri, na pia unataka kuhakikisha kuwa ahadi yako iko wazi kuwa atanufaika kama atatizimiza kile ambacho ungetaka afanye.

#3 Nendea chupi yake (yale mengine atayafanya mwenyewe)

Hii ndio mbinu ya raha zaidi ya kufanya kwa kuwa unajitokeza kama mwanaume ujuba. Unachukua yale majukumu ya kiume ambao yameshonwa katika DNA ya mwanaume tangu hata kabla nyakati za mababu zetu. Hapa utakuwa umechukua jukumu la kiume huku ukiwa umevunja bombwe ya kawaida na ukiwa umemuacha akitapatapa akihakikisha amezitoa nguo zote ambazo amebakisha.

Katika hali hii, unapuuza shati lake, sidiria, soksi… yaani kila kitu ambacho amevalia isipokuwa chupi na panti. Kama amevalia sketi, na unaweza kuvua chupi yake bila kutoa sketi yake, basi wewe fanya hivyo bila kushughulika na dress yake.

Kuna wanawake wengine watatoa nguo zote ambazo wamebaki nazo kwa mwili kama sehemu yao nyeti imeachwa wazi. Washaamua kuwa mapenzi yatafanyika, kukataa kumeisha, na wanaonelea kuwa watainjoy zaidi kama wataamua kuwa uchi… So wanaamua kuvua kila kitu.Hii moja kwa moja inakupa mkono wa mbele kumfanya mwanamke kuvua nguo mwenyewe bila hata kulazimishwa.

from UHONDO KITANDANI https://ift.tt/2llq2CA